Deepa and the Mothers of Silence
Al Modon - Zeina Allouche
Article Translated to English by Yara Zalzal
The quest for finding Deepa Darmasiri was poignant, indeed. What a sad picture it was, seeing her eaten up by all her hesitation, to finally gather the strength to reveal what she lived through. Her startled eyes, which talked about the sad event without even speaking, came in contradiction with her actual reluctance to uncover that old secret of hers. Carrying and feeling her newborn baby inside her womb for 9 consecutive months only to have her barbarically ripped away from her, was her big secret. All that silenced pain and repressed suffering invited cancer in, which ate up all of her life. Zeinab perceived, in all certainty, her mother Deepa as a victim and was so eager to search for that missing puzzle piece. If one were to ask questions pertaining to the reason why Zeinab went searching for her mother and to the behavior of her abusive and monster father, the answer would be simple. Did she or did she not experience the torture her mom experienced when she was in her womb? Did she or did she not feel her mom’s fear and perturbation during her dad’s multiple attempts to possibly abuse and rape her during pregnancy? She certainly did. She did witness, and let alone feel, the atrocities that her mom must have gone through. She did indeed experience oppression, humiliation, and helplessness whilst in her mother’s womb. Indeed, Deepa Darmasiri was left all alone, submerged with streams of unfairness and trapped within an ugly system. We will not call it a patriarchal system because that would demean the responsibility ignored by the legal authorities. This is true because the tragedy does not only mainly involve the victims, the witnesses, the aggressor, nor to the sponsor, and the owner of the office. The only party who should be held responsible for what happened to Deepa Darmasiri and other women is the Lebanese State.
It is not a mere coincidence having two TV shows approach the issue of the search for origins in one week. Rima Karaki in her show “Lel Nachr” (Ready for Publishing) hosted Ayman al Dirawi, Hadya’s son, who returned to his quest to uncovering his origins, after having been adopted by a Tunisian family during the Sabra and Chatila massacre. Even though, in the episode, no empathy was shown towards Ayman, the fact that this issue was tackled in this program suggests the importance of the right to know one’s origins. Click HERE to continue reading.
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